\u201cNuk kemi q\u00ebllim t\u2019i ndalojm\u00eb gj\u00ebrat treshe\u201d. K\u00ebshtu n\u00eb dhjetorin e 2020 ministrja e at\u00ebhershme franceze me delegimin p\u00ebr shtet\u00ebsin\u00eb, Marl\u00e8ne Schiappa, siguronte d\u00ebgjuesit nga mikrofon\u00ebt e Radio J. Fjal\u00ebt e saj kan\u00eb hyr\u00eb n\u00eb histori, duke i dh\u00ebn\u00eb edhe nj\u00eb \u00e7mim p\u00ebr humoriz\u00ebm politik t\u00eb pavullnetsh\u00ebm (n\u00eb realitet n\u00eb at\u00eb koh\u00eb ministrja ishte e impenjuar n\u00eb nj\u00eb luft\u00eb kund\u00ebr poligamis\u00eb). Shprehja t\u00eb b\u00ebn t\u00eb qesh\u00ebsh, por flet gjat\u00eb mbi imagjinat\u00ebn erotike ton\u00eb: nga marr\u00ebdhlniet e rrezikshme (me treshen e formuar nga Markezja de Merteuil, Viskonti Valmont dhe Madam\u00eb de Tourvel) tek \u201cJules dhe Jim\u201d i Fran\u00e7ois Truffaut, fantazia e nj\u00eb raporti treshe \u00ebsht\u00eb pjes\u00eb e pasuris\u00eb komb\u00ebtare franceze.<\/p>\n
K\u00ebshtu q\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019u habitur n\u00ebse n\u00eb 2017, sipas institutit t\u00eb sondazheve IFOP, 17% e francez\u00ebve kishte eksperimentuar trek\u00ebnd\u00ebshin e dashuris\u00eb dhe deri 29% e parisian\u00ebve! Ky rezultat mjaft i respektuesh\u00ebm mund t\u00eb shpjegohet me pasionin p\u00ebr raportet komplekse, por edhe me nj\u00eb form\u00eb pragmatizmi, duke qen\u00eb se takimi treshe kujton shum\u00eb versionin e but\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00eb orgjie: seks me m\u00eb shum\u00eb partner\u00eb, por t\u00eb gjith\u00eb n\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtin shtrat.<\/p>\n
Kombinacione <\/strong><\/p>\n N\u00eb imagjinat\u00ebn kolektive, seksi treshe \u00ebsht\u00eb par\u00eb si fantazi mashkullore par excellance<\/em>, gj\u00eb q\u00eb nuk i korrespondon domosdoshm\u00ebrisht t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebs. Sipas t\u00eb dh\u00ebnave relative me 2012 t\u00eb uebsajtit PornHub, n\u00eb proporcion grat\u00eb e k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb lloj p\u00ebrmbajtjesh m\u00eb shum\u00eb sesa burrat. Megjithat\u00eb, shifrat e IFOP flasin qart\u00eb: midis entuziast\u00ebve t\u00eb treshes, burrat p\u00ebrfaq\u00ebsojn\u00eb shumic\u00ebn. Kjo diferenc\u00eb ndihmon t\u00eb boshatiset fusha nga nj\u00eb ekuivok i par\u00eb: n\u00eb seksin treshe nuk ka nj\u00eb djal\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb paraqitur t\u00eb rrethuar nga dy biseksual\u00eb t\u00eb kushtuar vet\u00ebm k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsis\u00eb s\u00eb tij. Pjesa m\u00eb e madhe e tresheve parashikon t\u00eb pakt\u00ebn dy burra, ka mund\u00ebsi tre (n\u00eb rastin e tresheve gei). Kjo nuk e pengon kultur\u00ebn popullore t\u00eb ushqej\u00eb end\u00ebrr\u00ebn e nj\u00eb varianti tjet\u00ebr dhe m\u00eb pak t\u00eb shpesht\u00eb, ata t\u00eb dy grave dhe nj\u00eb burri (e kujtoni filmin kult Cruel Intentions<\/em> t\u00eb 1999 apo Shame<\/em> e 2011). P\u00ebr ta treguar k\u00ebt\u00eb fantazi, interneti dhe industria e pornos kan\u00eb shpikur sigl\u00ebn FFM<\/em> (Female \u2013 Female \u2013 Male<\/em>, grua \u2013 grua \u2013 burr\u00eb), e kund\u00ebrv\u00ebn\u00eb MMF<\/em> (Male \u2013 Male \u2013 Female<\/em>, burr\u00eb \u2013 burr\u00eb \u2013 grua). P\u00ebr prakticitet, do ta adoptoj k\u00ebt\u00eb terminologji n\u00eb pjes\u00ebn tjet\u00ebr t\u00eb rubrik\u00ebs.<\/p>\n Skema FFM<\/em> \u00ebsht\u00eb aq dalluese n\u00eb imagjinat\u00ebn heteroseksuale (\u201cKam pasur dy gra t\u00eb gjitha p\u00ebr mua dhe i kam k\u00ebnaqur gjith\u00eb nat\u00ebn!\u201d) se dinak\u00eb t\u00eb caktuar kan\u00eb shpikur \u00e7iftin gjysm\u00eb t\u00eb hapur, hapja e t\u00eb cil\u00ebve kufizohet n\u00eb takimet treshe. Gruaja mund t\u00eb ket\u00eb partner\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00eb, ama vet\u00ebm me kusht q\u00eb t\u00eb mos jen\u00eb t\u00eb pajisur me kar. Amerikan\u00ebt e quajn\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb rregull one \u2013 penis policy <\/em>(jo m\u00eb shum\u00eb se nj\u00eb kar n\u00eb dhom\u00ebn e gjumit), q\u00eb i shtyn shum\u00eb pifte heteroseksuale t\u00eb pallojn\u00eb gra (asnj\u00ebher\u00eb burra) biseksuale me propozime p\u00ebr takime tresheje. Gra jo domosdoshm\u00ebrisht t\u00eb d\u00ebshiruara nga nj\u00eb burr\u00eb q\u00eb p\u00ebrzihet n\u00eb aventurat e tyre fem\u00ebrore. Po p\u00ebr sa i p\u00ebrket skem\u00ebs MMF<\/em>? Sipas nj\u00eb studimi anglisht t\u00eb botuar m\u00eb 2017, ky lloj takimesh sh\u00ebrben mbi t\u00eb gjitha p\u00ebr t\u00eb forcuar miq\u00ebsin\u00eb midis burrave, q\u00eb kan\u00eb ose jo nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie seksuale. Burrat q\u00eb vendosin nj\u00eb lidhje sociale duke e ndar\u00eb me nj\u00eb grua.<\/p>\n Gjetja e t\u00eb tretit t\u00eb duhur<\/strong><\/p>\n Kultivimi i fantazive \u00ebsht\u00eb i habitsh\u00ebm, por v\u00ebnia n\u00eb praktik\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb gj\u00eb krejt\u00ebsisht tjet\u00ebr. Imazhi ideal \u00ebsht\u00eb ai i nj\u00eb mbr\u00ebmjeje ku, bashk\u00ebpun\u00ebtor alkooli, gj\u00ebrat rr\u00ebshqasin nga dora n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb natyrale. Le t\u00eb jemi t\u00eb sinqert\u00eb: ky lloj skenari \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb i rrall\u00eb dhe faktikisht sot \u00e7iftet i besojn\u00eb uebsajteve si Feeld, Wyylde apo Find a threesome p\u00ebr ta gjetur t\u00eb tretin q\u00eb k\u00ebnaq fantazit\u00eb e tyre dhe q\u00eb n\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi quhet \u201cnj\u00ebbrir\u00ebsh\u201d (n\u00eb shtratet tuaja, ashtu si n\u00eb mitologji, nj\u00ebbrir\u00ebshi \u00ebsht\u00eb frikshm\u00ebrisht i rrall\u00eb). Kush \u00ebsht\u00eb alergjik ndaj tekonologjis\u00eb preferon t\u2019u drejtohet n\u00eb fakt qindra seks klubeve n\u00eb Franc\u00eb. Le ta themi t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebn: seksi dysh \u00ebsht\u00eb tashm\u00eb mjaft i komplikuar. P\u00ebr m\u00eb t\u00eb ankthshmit, ai n\u00eb treshe mund t\u00eb rezultoj\u00eb i v\u00ebshtir\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019u menaxhuar dhe kjo vlen si p\u00ebr \u00e7iftet q\u00eb pranojn\u00eb partnerin e tret\u00eb dhe q\u00eb nganj\u00ebher\u00eb i zbulojn\u00eb shum\u00eb von\u00eb kufijt\u00eb e xhelozis\u00eb s\u00eb tyre, ashtu edhe p\u00ebr nj\u00ebbrir\u00ebshin, q\u00eb mund t\u00eb ndjehet i pambrojtur p\u00ebrball\u00eb bashk\u00ebveprimit seksual t\u00eb dyshes q\u00eb njihet shum\u00eb mir\u00eb.<\/p>\n P\u00ebr t\u2019u shmangur katastrofa, nevojitet pra q\u00eb t\u00eb veprohet sakt\u00ebsisht si zakonisht: t\u00eb mos merret asgj\u00eb si e mir\u00ebqen\u00eb, t\u00eb b\u00ebhen pyetje dhe t\u00eb d\u00ebgjohen p\u00ebrgjigjet. Kjo mas\u00eb paraprake \u00ebsht\u00eb akoma edhe m\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme duke par\u00eb q\u00eb ideja jon\u00eb e seksit n\u00eb treshe ushqehet nga nj\u00eb imagjinat\u00eb pornografike e ve\u00e7ant\u00eb: dy gra p\u00ebr nj\u00eb marrje n\u00eb goj\u00eb, dy burra p\u00ebr nj\u00eb penetrim t\u00eb dyfisht\u00eb. Praktika as t\u00eb detyrueshme, as shum\u00eb t\u00eb aksesueshme p\u00ebr pjes\u00ebmarr\u00ebsit. Nga pik\u00ebpamja e konsensusit, gj\u00ebrat jan\u00eb shum\u00eb t\u00eb thjeshta: nuk mjaftojn\u00eb dy p\u00ebr nj\u00eb praktik\u00eb t\u00eb caktuar q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb treshe.<\/p>\n E bukura e t\u00eb shikuarit <\/strong><\/p>\n Ia vlen barra qiran\u00eb se duhet t\u00eb mendoni edhe p\u00ebr t\u2019u mbrojtur. M\u00eb shum\u00eb partner\u00eb n\u00ebnkupton edhe m\u00eb shum\u00eb rreziqe. Ndryshimi i prezervativit p\u00ebr \u00e7do partner mund t\u00eb duket nj\u00eb prishje apo nj\u00eb harxhim kohe, por k\u00ebto pauza t\u00eb vogla nuk do t\u2019ju pengojn\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019ia kaluar. Ve\u00e7 k\u00ebsaj, do t\u2019ju japin rastin p\u00ebr t\u00eb mbajtur frym\u00ebn kur jeni t\u00eb lodhur. Nj\u00eb takim treshe nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb maraton\u00eb: k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsia e t\u00eb shikuarit \u00ebsht\u00eb po aq intensive sa k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsia e t\u00eb marrit pjes\u00eb. Th\u00ebn\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb, atlet\u00ebt e seksit sigurisht do ta ken\u00eb pasur m\u00ebnyr\u00ebn t\u00eb kryejn\u00eb eksperimentime t\u00eb guximshme: p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb qllim jan\u00eb t\u00eb disponueshme kamasutra apostafat (Kama sutra for three. The illustratedm guide t\u00eb threesome sexual positions<\/em>) dhe deri guida si Osez faire l\u2019amour \u00e1 2, 3, 4….<\/em> (sht\u00ebpia botuese La Musardine 2018).<\/p>\n Me p\u00ebrfundimin e takimit, mos harroni ta falenderoni nj\u00ebbrir\u00ebshin tuaj: mir\u00ebsjellja \u00ebsht\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme edhe nj\u00eb her\u00eb e k\u00ebnaqur fantazia. Pas k\u00ebsaj do t\u00eb mund t\u00eb t\u00eb flisnit me partnerin apo partnerin e zakonsh\u00ebm: ka shkuar gjith\u00e7ka si\u00e7 duhet? Xhelozia \u00ebsht\u00eb konsumuar midia \u00e7ar\u00e7af\u00ebve? Ka qen\u00eb nj\u00eb sukses, n\u00eb katastrof\u00eb apo nj\u00eb mbr\u00ebmje k\u00ebshtu k\u00ebshtu? Duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb nj\u00eb konvertim i leht\u00eb, duke qen\u00eb se sipas nj\u00eb studimi t\u00eb fundit t\u00eb kryer n\u00eb Shtetet e Bashkuara, 87.7% e t\u00eb intervistuarve ka deklaruar se ka arritur organz\u00ebm gjat\u00eb nj\u00eb takimi tresh dhe pjesa m\u00eb e madhe e tyre mezi priste q\u00eb ta rib\u00ebnte!<\/p>\n (nga Le Monde<\/em>)<\/p>\n P\u00ebrgatiti<\/strong><\/p>\n ARMIN TIRANA<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" \u201cNuk kemi q\u00ebllim t\u2019i ndalojm\u00eb gj\u00ebrat treshe\u201d. K\u00ebshtu n\u00eb dhjetorin e 2020 ministrja e at\u00ebhershme franceze me delegimin p\u00ebr shtet\u00ebsin\u00eb, Marl\u00e8ne Schiappa, siguronte d\u00ebgjuesit nga mikrofon\u00ebt e Radio J. Fjal\u00ebt e saj kan\u00eb hyr\u00eb n\u00eb histori, duke i dh\u00ebn\u00eb edhe nj\u00eb \u00e7mim p\u00ebr humoriz\u00ebm politik t\u00eb pavullnetsh\u00ebm (n\u00eb realitet n\u00eb at\u00eb koh\u00eb ministrja ishte e …<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":63506,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[42],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-63505","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","","category-kulture"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/rdnews.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/63505","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/rdnews.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/rdnews.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/rdnews.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/4"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/rdnews.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=63505"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/rdnews.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/63505\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/rdnews.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/63506"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/rdnews.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=63505"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/rdnews.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=63505"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/rdnews.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=63505"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}